It’s Not About The Other Person

Have you ever felt great insecurity over another person?

He doesn’t have to be a love rival or a direct competitor but his actions are enough to make you feel less worthy.

I’ve been there, I’ve done that and this is what I realize: it’s not about the other person’s actions that make me feel insecure but a reflection of my own perception about things that are non-existing. It’s not about the other person’s initiatives that get into my nerves but my own silent admission of helplessness and uselessness. Hurting one’s ego even if it’s unintentional is enough to knock down one’s common sense. And if a person is sensitive, the more she becomes prone to insecurity attacks.

I acknowledged the fact that I was insecure and feeling unworthy. To address that, I found ways on how to be of value. In short, I managed to bounce back from the imaginary hole that I put myself into.

The next time you feel that a person is “epal,” ask yourself if it is just insecurity that’s eating you.  🙂

 

Being Grateful

How many times have you thanked your parents for all the wonderful things they’ve done to you? How many times have you bothered to say “Thank you” to your little boy or little girl who exerted effort to prepare snack for you? Have you ever thanked a boss for a promotion or have you been honestly and openly grateful for having a good-performing staff? Is saying “Thank you” that difficult that is why not every person is capable of saying it with utmost sincerity?

I know of a man who works double time to support his sister’s education when their parents could not support her studies. Is she ever grateful what her brother does for her? Maybe yes. But there is never an instance when she could have expressed that gratitude through words. She probably thought that it’s her brother’s obligation to support her.

I know of an elderly couple who complains about the monthly allowance that they receive from their son. The elderly couple wants to live in a little luxury but the son cannot afford such a lifestyle. He can only provide for their basic needs. They could have thanked him for being a dutiful son but they did the opposite way.

I know of an upper middleclass teener who demands to her parents about the latest this and that. Once bought and given, the teener thought that she earned the stuff given to her. She never bothered to say “Thank you.”

Being grateful and saying “thank you” must be taught at an early age. Being grateful is like acknowledging the favors that we receive; either earned or given. Saying “thank you” promotes a better relationship between the giver and receiver. The giver will feel appreciated while the receiver will feel deserving.