Two hearts are better than one.

Two hearts are better than one.

“Happy Valentine’s, Ma’am!”

I smiled and greeted my officemate back. Oh, so it’s Valentine’s Day, I almost forgot. The cafeteria has plastic roses for sale. I asked the cashier if they have chocolates for sale. She said they don’t sell chocolates. The majority in our company’s workforce including me do not “celebrate” Valentine’s Day.

My best Valentine’s happened when I was in college. It was the first time I spent my Valentine’s with a boyfriend. We just invited our friends to have a group date in Mister Donut in Session Road. My then boyfriend gave me three red roses and a Valentine card. After that, our group went to Burnham Park to simply stroll. What would you expect from a group of young and penniless college students? The celebration was so simple yet we were so happy.

I was 17 at that time and I believed in fairy tales. Three years later, I celebrated Valentine’s with the same boyfriend but the happines was no longer there. Reality came in and I realized that we were just celebrating Valentine’s just for the sake of celebrating it. The love was still there but the irreconcilable differences were also very apparent. We had a Valentine photo together and my face looked old and miserable.

I celebrated Valentine’s Day just for the sake of not being left out. That thinking spilled over to my next relationship and I could feel that the pressure to please me was too much for him to bear.

The fear of being left out—it kills. It really hurts. But people who are afraid of being alone are those who have insecurity issues. In the first place, who said that Valentine’s Day is just for couples? What about the singles who want to enjoy the day? Go out and enjoy if you are one of those who celebrate Valentine’s Day. I’ll just be happy to be spending the night with my family. I may not call it Valentine’s Day but Family Day everyday!

My Valentine’s Experiences

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. My best buddy here in the office is very excited about it. Forgive her, she’s only 24. 😉

When I was younger, I regarded this day as the 3rd most special day after All Saint’s Day and Christmas. Valentine’s used to be that special day that could make or break my day. I finished high school with no Valentine’s card, no Valentine’s date and no Valentino to spend the day with. Good thing, my father was born on Valentine’s Day so his birthday celebration made up for it.

It was in Baguio City where I had my first Valentine’s with my first boyfriend. It was actually a group date with a couple of mutual friends. We just had doughnut and soda (what a combination!) at Mr. Donut’s in Session Road. My first boyfriend gave me three red roses on that special day. I was his first love, too; I gave my yes to him 12 days before Valentine’s.

My worst Valentine’s experience was in 1998 when my jealousy-stricken first boyfriend assumed that I was with someone else inside my room. I fell asleep after making a Valentine’s card for him that was why I didn’t hear his knocks. When I opened the door, his eyes were fierce and angrily, he accused me of sleeping with someone else. I showed him the card and after seeing it, he cooled down but he had ruined my romantic mood for that day.

My second boyfriend NEVER gave me flowers for reasons that I do not know until now. My most memorable Valentine’s with him was when he said NO to his teammate’s request for swapping their shift. That was in 2001 and it was our first Valentine’s date. We dined at Shakey’s in Magsaysay Avenue (Olongapo City)

I have yet to celebrate my first Valentine’s with Miel, my third boyfriend and fiance’. I don’t expect red balloons and red roses. I don’t expect chocolate cake or chocolate bars. His presence would just be enough. With Miel, everyday is Valentine’s Day for me.