All Brides Are Beautiful!

My husband, Adi and I will be attending a friend’s wedding in Balanga City tomorrow. Oh, I’m excited to see the bride; she was one of my bride’s maids and her soon-to-be husband was one of the groom’s men. Their love story didn’t start at my wedding because they were already lovers when we got them to be part of our entourage.

Weddings are elegant no matter how simple some of them are. The bride always exudes an air of aristocracy; her beauty shines through her smile. The groom’s facial expression denotes pride and excitement. The bride’s maids, groom’s men, maid of honor and best man look at the soon-to-be husband and wife with unexplainable joy and admiration. The parents of the couple have both tears and smile on their face as if they can’t decide whether to give away their son or daughter to their soon-to-be daughter or son-in-law.

My own wedding was not perfect. Months before the wedding, there were some family problems to face. My then-boyfriend and I were too harassed by the preparation. There were only me and him who prepared for our wedding. When the modista took my measurement in December 2008, I was fat and she suggested to put some allowance on the gown in case I grew bigger before the wedding. When the gown was delivered in February and I tried on it, I noticed that it was a little loose on the torso. I disregarded the loose fitting; I didn’t realize that I’ve lost a lot of weight in just two months. When I wore the gown on my wedding day or five weeks after I tried on it, it was very loose! I lost a lot of weight and it showed on the gown. It was very uncomfortable to always check on my gown for any wardrobe malfunction while my father and I were marching down the aisle.

Frankly, I have not yet watched our wedding video and the wedding gown was just stored at its box sans dry cleaning. Up to this time, it’s hard to see my ailing mother on video. She died two months after the wedding. As for the wedding gown, it was certainly a wise decision to have a cheaper gown made by an unknown yet skilful modista. I have nothing against blushing brides opting to get the services of famous gown designers if they have money to burn. But if the budget is tight or in my case, if the bride is just being practical, then the work of an unknown yet skilful modista will do.

We spent more on the reception and miscalculated the number of guests at 200 when only 110 guests arrived. Heck, I can’t even remember our caterer’s food!

My wedding was not perfect and I got married to an imperfect person. At this stage when our honeymoon phase is over and reality is knocking on our head, I question my decision of marrying someone after a whirlwind romance. We have no past to share and his life 25 years before is a door that needs to be opened. Maybe I made a big mistake of getting engaged just two months after we started dating. But that big mistake brought me my greatest joys in life, Adi and Robi.